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TO: Dolls FROM: Ebony Nikita Okeke FOR: 5k Tea Party Event Hello Dolls, This Friday at 7pm est, we'll be celebrating our accomplishment of 5000 Subscribers on my YouTube Channel. This is a great accomplishment that I am very proud of. I feel so thankful for the tremendous amount of support that I've received from you Dolls. I am so excited to be announcing the TWO giveaway winners! ENO's Tea Party Celebration When: Friday, July 2nd, 2021 Where: Ebony Nikita Okeke Channel's YouTube Livestream Time: 7pm est SCHEDULE: 7pm: Doll Meet & Greet 1: Feminine Favorites 2: Giveaway Winners Announcement 3: Live! Question & Answers QUESTION & ANSWERS Submission: ASK AWAY. Let's Chit Chat about Femininity, Marriage, Relationships or Homemaking! If you submit your questions before the livestream, I'll be sure to make them top priority! During a livestream, there will be a plethora of great questions from all of you Dolls. Sometimes, I'm not able to address all of them within our event time period. So be sure to LEAVE A COMMENT & Submit Your QUESTIONS below, so I'll surely answer them during the event! You can also submit questions through my YouTube Community Tab post or through my IG Story Q&A segment! Be sure to check your email for the Official Tea Party Invitation! What do you want to see in the Live Tea Party Celebration? What Questions Do You Have for me? Comment Below! Let's Chat Dolls. Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: 5k Subscriber Giveaway! Hello Dolls! I'm so excited to announce the 5k giveaway sponsored by Rose Forever New York! I recently did a sponsored video featuring their gorgeous box of roses. They were kind enough to sponsor this giveaway in celebration of reaching 5ooo subscribers on YouTube! As I am writing this, we're currently at 6,225 subscribers and counting! There will be TWO winners for this giveaway! You'll receive a mini Rose Forever box of rose in a similar style as mine featured in the video. Giveaway Prize for 2 Subscribers! 💝 Watch my video featuring Rose Forever Box of Roses & the Giveaway Announcement! https://youtu.be/IfoYAmK8aWk Rose Forever Giveaway Qualifications: 🎁 💝 1. Be a Doll & Be Subscribed My Channel! 2. Follow Rose Forever on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roseforeverny/ 3. Follow Ebony Nikita Okeke on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ebony.nikita/ 4. Join the Dollhouse & Be Subscribed to My Blog: https://ebonyro1.wixsite.com/ebonynikita 5. Leave a Sweet Comment under the video & tag your Instagram @ name & your name on my Blog :) This giveaway is based for USA subscribers only. (Don't be discouraged my international subscribers, I will have international giveaways in the near future!) Giveaway Ends on June 30th, 2021 & the Winners will be Chosen. (Be sure to check your messages on the Blog!) 📰 The 2 Giveaway Winners will be Announced on July 2nd, 2021 during the Live Tea Party Celebration on YouTube! I will contact the Giveaway Winners via my Blog. This is the ONLY way I will be contacting the winners! I will send a direct message through my blog: https://ebonyro1.wixsite.com/ebonynikita The winners will have 2 days to respond! If it goes without a response within 2 days, another subscriber will be chosen :) I will be sure to send updates through Instagram, My Community Tab on YouTube & on My Blog! So excited for this giveaway! Check my Instagram & the Chit Chat Room for Updates! Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Spring Fragrances Hello Dolls! If you remember in my past Live Tea Time & Chit Chat on YouTube, I mentioned a new fragrance that I was dying to try. The Penhaligon’s Equinox Bloom Eau de Parfum looks like the perfect feminine perfume from the packaging to the fragrance notes. “Inspired by the quintessentially English tradition of afternoon tea, and the transitional moment when day turns to evening and when cold Winter yields to Spring” The Blind-Buy Purchase Story My purchase of this perfume was my first blind-buy. A blind-buy is when you haven’t smelled the perfume before you purchase it. You read the top, base and heart notes of the perfume and choose to buy the fragrance which is based on a hunch that you may like it. The notes and description of this fragrance compelled me to jump the gun and do a blind-buy. Penhaligon’s London, is a UK brand founded in 1870. Its not a mainstream perfumery in the USA so you may enjoy this brand if you’re one to shy away from popularized fragrances. I tried calling Bloomingdales and Saks Fifth Avenue in hope of getting a whiff of this perfume, but unfortunately they didn’t sell it in-store nor did they have a tester. I was disappointed, but the notes and description of this fragrance compelled me to jump the gun and do a blind-buy. Notes & Description According to product details description of Penhaligon's Equinox Bloom. Notes: “Delicious notes of Chantilly, Frangipani and Brown Sugar are blended with violet leaves, orange blossom absolute and jasmine sambac, rounded with the deep, Oriental richness of Benzoin Siam and Ambrox” • TOP NOTES • Chantilly Cream, Bigarade, Violet Leaf • HEART NOTES • Frangipani, Orange Blossom, Jasmine Sambac • BASE NOTES • Ambrox, Siam Benzoin, Brown Sugar • REVIEW • MY EXPERIENCE Within the first spray, I detect the apparent dried tea leaves. This scent is reminiscent of a gentle and grassy freshness, yet it is complimented by a light citrus and a soft, milky smoothness. As the day progresses, the delicate warmth and sweetness of the frangipani reveals itself. The citrus notes continues to compliment and a light whiff of fruitiness makes a quiet appearance. As for the dry down, the citrus and grassy tea notes disappear and it’s replaced by smooth warmth, the light musk and subtle sweetness from the brown sugar. LONGEVITY I was quite worried about the wear-time of this fragrance since I’ve heard mixed reviews on longevity for some of Penhaligon’s fragrances. Yet, this Equinox Bloom lasted just as long as my Dior Absolutely Blooming eau de parfum. It was a 6-hour wear test. I sprayed Equinox bloom on one side of my wrist and Absolutely Blooming on the other wrist. Each fragrance lasted quite nicely. UNIQUENESS This scent is unique to my fragrance collection. I can’t think of another perfume that smells like this one. Its a special fragrance with a unique smell won’t be easy to find a similar one. It’s not your classic floral, nor your everyday warm and sweet fragrance that you can find at your nearest fragrance counter. This is something I appreciate in a perfume. It adds more diversity and depth in my fragrance wardrobe. If you’re looking for something different, then this may be the one that will satisfy your search. • OVERALL THOUGHTS • I would recommend this fragrance as a chance to indulge in your spring tea party dreams. Its a remarkable perfume. It’s enticing from the packaging to the uniqueness of the scent. It’s stance in the mainstream fragrance market will make you feel like you have a precious hidden gem in your fragrance wardrobe. Will you add the Penhaligon’s Equinox Bloom to your collection? What is your favorite feminine spring fragrance? Comment Below! Let’s Chat Dolls. Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke *This post contains affiliate links which will help support my content. Every use is greatly appreciated! Thank you in advance!

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Spring & Summer Fashion Inspiration Hello Dolls, One of the most exciting parts about a new season, is the new fashion. It’s time to revamp our wardrobe with spring and summer wear. These are my favorite feminine & elegant trends for the spring and summer season! I’ve also shared my top picks from Amazon! Enjoy! Watch! Click & Watch! TOP PICKS FROM AMAZON Trend: Extravagant Hats The White Dress Button Front & Tweed The Empire Dress Elegant Floral These products contain affiliate links. By shopping through my affiliate links you are supporting my content. Thank you! What’s your favorite trend for this spring/summer season? Comment below! Let’s Chat Doll. Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke

The classic swipe of your credit card in your local mall has probably retired thanks to a delightful thing called online shopping. Of course online shopping is great, especially the mind-numbing pleasure of spending countless hours searching for the perfect item on various websites. Oh and we all love the conflicting moment of deciding if the item is worth the extra $7 shipping fee. The Perfect Bonding Experience Between You, Your Friends and Your Beloved Wallet. We have to admit shopping in person is a different adventure. The popular and trending shopping experience is going to a POP-UP SHOP event. This temporary store-front for online businesses is a trending way to view your favorite products and discover new ones. Going to a pop-up shop event can be a breath of fresh air. It’s the much needed getaway from your computer screen and crowded malls. Let’s not forget it’s the perfect bonding experience between you, your friends and your beloved wallet. And What Exactly is a Pop-Up Shop? A Pop-Up Shop could be anything from a booth at an event, a sectioned off retail space, a temporary store itself or it can be a constructed building in the middle of a shopping center. At a pop-up shop event you’re able to experience many versions of a store front. WHAT TO LOOK FORWARD TO: 1. THE. BEST. DEALS. Most pop-up shops provide crazy, good deals that you can’t get online. It’s common for businesses to provide their pop-up shop customers with a special discount on the brand’s services. For Ebony Nikita SWIM’s pop-up shop I provided my customers with an extra 25% OFF their purchase. As an added bonus, customers may receive 35% OFF any online purchase along with FREE custom swimsuit sizing. 2. The AESTHETIC...Need I say more? Whether the pop-up shop is a sectioned booth or a separate facility, the aesthetic is to DIE for. The design of the space is typically decorated in a way to compliment the brand’s theme. You get a better visual of the brand versus only viewing their Instagram feed. The person behind the scene, the owner, is usually present and happy to assist you. It’s a great time to get to know the owner, their personality and understand the brand’s story. 3. Experience the joy of NO SHIPPING FEE SHIPPING. Ugh, the world would be a better place if there was free shipping. In person, you get the luxury of ensuring the quality of your purchase AND you get it right then and there. Isn’t that beautiful? 4. Find UNIQUE Products You’ve Been MISSING OUT on All work and no play? Sorry, never heard of her. Connecting and laughing with my customers was a highlight of my day, along with discovering other amazing products. In particular, I became obsessed with this beauty/skin brand called Sweeties Natural. Never have I ever tried a body butter so amazing. It was smooth to the touch and melted into my skin as light oil. AH-MAZE-ZING. I never knew what I was missing. At Pop-Up Shops you’re able to discover something new whether you were looking for it or not. 5. Meet your new BESTIE or BUSINESS PARTNER Pop-Up shops are filled with a variety of people, fashions and backgrounds. You would have to be the highest level of an introvert to NOT make a new friend. Even then, I’m sure you could meet a fellow introvert. When you stop by a pop-up shop it’s a great time to connect with others in a natural way. At the end of the night I walked away with EIGHT business cards which means eight potential business opportunities. If you are a business owner or an aspiring business owner, this is the perfect time to network and connect with other businesses for future collaboration or opportunities. Whether your style is cultural-inspired, punk, prep or minimalist, there's a Pop-Up Shop event that you NEED to go to. Join the fun and try something new. Trust me. It’s For Your Own Good, Ebony Nikita

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Housewife Wednesday Hello Dolls, Happy Housewife Wednesday to you. I have been in the mood to detox my home from clutter and refresh it with visually-pleasing organization. There are certain areas in my home that are prone to disorganization. For my home, it would be the bathroom linen closet, pantry and refrigerator. These are common places that me and my husband use daily so its quite easy to get disorganized. As a homemaker, organizing these areas are apart of my cleaning routine. Yet, I'd like to make those areas of my home more functional, more organized and overall pretty! When you open a refrigerator, you want to have a clear view of your food. You want your food to be organized and placed in a visually pleasing way. Its apart of the experience. That is the same way you'd want to feel when you open your pantry and closet. I am on a quest to achieve my organized home goals in those three areas. I also want to keep it under the budget of $60 per area. I will be sharing my design and storage purchases in future blog posts! For a sneak peek on some of my purchases, watch my Housewife Diary Vlog that will premiere this Friday 3/2/21. My Home Organization Inspiration What improvements are you making to your home? Be sure to make time for yourself for this Housewife Wednesday. Let's Chat Dolls, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: #FeminineFashionFriday Hello Dolls, I am so happy it’s Friday. This week has blew past me. It’s been a busy week but it feels like it went by so fast. i am excited to go LIVE on YouTube today at 8pm EST! So don’t forget to subscribe & turn on your post notifications! Anywho I‘ve been captivated by these elegant ensembles on Instagram. I hope this serves you feminine fashion inspiration for this upcoming winter/spring season. I also decided to share some similar Amazon fashion items to my top #femininefashionfriday picks! I hope you enjoy. Feminine & Frilly @nicolabathiemclaughlin I discovered this jewelry creator & tablescape designer a while ago. I am in love with her feminine & elegant style. Her designs are very soft & a every girly girl’s dream. She is often seen wearing elegant & feminine Ensembles on Instagram. This outfit is one of favorites! See-through and tulle is a trend for this spring/summer! Adored in Dior @leletny I am in love with Toile de Jouy by Dior. This classic print is whimsical and charming. Long length skirts are popular for this upcoming spring season. Everyday Chic @cgwebuofficial Cynthia Gwebu is a South African youtuber and I love her lifestyle vlogs. This ensemble is a perfect winter/spring transitional outfit. Satin Dream What is your favorite outfit? Comment below! Let's Chat Dolls. Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Your New Favorite Lipstick Hello Dolls, If you have seen my Housewife Diary Vlogs, then you may notice I have a special place in my heart for luxury make up. I am in love with the Dior make up products that I have tried, therefore this one has high expectations. Dior premiered their Rouge Dior lipstick with several new formulas. The new formulas are in satin, velvet, matte and metallic. I was mostly interested in the velvet formula which led to my purchase of ‘Favorite’ 760 velvet lipstick. In My Housewife Diary Vlog, you Dolls went with me to Nordstrom at the Phipps Plaza to purchase the newest Dior lipstick. At 14:30 seconds, you will see me apply my new lipstick with anticipation and give a live first impressions. NEW FEATURES ` The Rouge Dior lipstick is featured in brand new Dior packaging. The design showcases the Christian Dior logo, CD, on the front of the lipstick. This adds an elegant detail to the lipstick compact. Another new feature about this lipstick is that it is a refillable. Currently on the website, there are several shades you can you refill this lipstick with. This is a great way to avoid waste. Nothing makes me happier than pulling out this lipstick for touchup while I am out and about. WEAR TIME As for wear time, this lipstick has the average lasting power compared to other luxury lipsticks. I will mention this lipstick lasts longer than my Pat McGrath Mattetrance and Luxetrance lipsticks. There weren't any claims for this lipstick to have a 24-hour wear time or anything of that nature. Overall it lasts pretty nicely. While eating or drinking, this lipstick will fade in the center part of the lips. This is not anything new, especially if you are used to wearing lipsticks. The lipstick is buildable so reapplying or touching up my lipstick after dinner is not a problem for me. At least it gives me a chance to show off the beautiful CD lipstick packaging. THE VELVET FORMULA This new formula is very enticing by its name. Due to it's application, it does live up to its name. Imagine applying velvet to your lips. That is the only way I could think of describing this. It is a true velvet lipstick. It is beautiful and luxurious to the touch. It is such a pleasure to apply. The opacity of the lipstick is nice and it doesn't take long to build up. As I mentioned before, this formula is buildable and suitable for reapplication or touchups. I do apply a brownish-red lip liner to help the lipstick compliment my skin tone complexion. In My Housewife Diary Vlog, you’ll hear me say mention my first choice of shade was the classic red 999. Unfortunately it was sold out at the Dior counter so I did settle for this shade '760 favorite'. The shade 760 has a visible pink undertone while comparing it side-by-side to the shade 999. The shade 999 is supposed to compliment every skin tone complexion. Overall I’m happy with my shade selection. It is truly the perfect red lipstick for me. FINAL THOUGHTS I would recommend this Rouge Dior Velvet lipstick for any Doll who is looking for the perfect red lipstick or looking to expand your lipstick collection. Again, every Doll should have the PERFECT red lipstick in her makeup wardrobe. I would first advise you to explore Dior's Rouge lipstick. The classic 999 shade is a universal red and it is a perfect starting point. Dior does have other variations of red lipstick in different formulas like my 760 Favorite velvet lipstick. Their various red shades carry different undertones to suit your needs. I will be purchasing more Dior lipsticks in the future. Have you tried any of the Rouge Dior lipsticks? What is your favorite lipstick formula? Liquid, matte, satin, glossy? Comment below! Let's Chat, Dolls. Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Spring Cleaning Hello Dolls, It is now officially spring! When I think of spring, I think of flowers in bloom, dainty dresses and a fresh home. Welcome in spring by refreshing your home from the winter season. As homemakers, its important that we care for our homes and keep up with the seasons. Keeping up with the seasons, allows us to refresh our home accordingly. In the winter season, we are to make our homes cozier. In the spring season, we are to lighten up our home for a fresher feeling. Here are simple ways to refresh your home for the spring season. 1. Weekly Fresh Flowers As you Dolls see in my Housewife Diary Vlogs, I enjoy creating floral arrangements for my home. It's a great relaxing and creative feminine hobby for all and especially for homemakers. Flowers bring a refreshing ambiance into a home. It can turn a cold, stale environment, to a fresh and lively one. It truly brings life into any room. I would place fresh flowers in every room, but a great start would be in your living room, dining room and bathroom. These are common living places in your home. Adding flowers would make a statement and bring much needed liveliness and elegance. Watch me create lovely spring flower arrangements on my patio in my Housewife Diary Vlog. I purchased flowers from my local farmer's market and they look darling in my home. 2. Decluttering: start small This is perhaps the most famous way to welcome in spring. It's time to go through each area of your, declutter and choose which one stays and which one goes. Spring cleaning is a vital way to welcome in the season. Having a cluttered home does not provide a cozy, elegant and welcoming for anyone who lives there. Its important for us homemakers to provide our family with the best home environment we can. Hoarding and neglecting cluttered closets, drawers or other parts of your home isn't a healthy environment to be in. It turns into an unhealthy habit. Finding solutions to disorganized areas of your home is apart of the homemaker's role. 3. Create or Update Storage System When its time to refresh your home, it's important to pinpoint weak organization points in your home and create new solutions for them. In my past blog post, 'Creating an Organized & Visually Appealing Home', I spoke about how my goal is to create an aesthetically pleasing storage system for my home's trouble areas. My main areas of focused are my linen closet, refrigerator and pantry. I would invest in purchasing bins and baskets for closets. For areas like your pantry, under the kitchen and bathroom sink, it's useful to purchase bins to keep those small areas organized. 4. New Dinnerware One of the best ways to refresh your home is to purchase dinnerware. Whether its new glass cups, seasonal saucers, or utensils, its a joy to dine with new dinnerware. I recently purchased modern, square dinner plates. My husband absolutely loves them. It makes a regular meal feel like you're dining at an upscale restaurant. Here are my favorite picks from *Amazon- Click & Shop! *Affiliate links. I earn a small commission. Shopping through my links helps support my blog and YouTube content. Thank you! 5. Seasonal Accents Make your home cozy and refreshing for the new season. Cycling out old pillows and throw blankets for new colors and styles instantly refreshes a home. This simple update allows your home to feel customized and new. When I lived at home before I married, my mother would switch out the living room's pillows, blankets and curtains for every season. In the fall time the accent color would be orange, for winter it was deep red, for spring it was yellow or green and for summer it was island blue. Those simple changes allowed our home to feel refreshed with a new season. I looked forward to decorating for each season. After a while, you're able to mix and match with your décor collection. Have you begun spring cleaning? What is your favorite way to welcome in the new season? Comment below! Let's Chat, Dolls Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Successful Relationships Hello Dolls, Let's save ourselves the most amount of heartaches and headaches we can. One of the most beautiful things in life are relationships. Us as feminine, high value ladies want a successful, healthy relationship that could blossom into marriage. Yet, these small things could deter men away from continuing a relationship with you. They could also result in being a HUGE disadvantage to you in relationships. These things are not feminine, a big 'turn off' and something you should look out for when you're dating. In my latest video, "Ladies STOP doing this: What NOT to do in Relationships", I share with you Dolls the main things you should avoid. I also explain and elaborate on the reasonings why you shouldn't do such things. Be sure to watch it for more value and detail. What NOT to do in RELATIONSHIPS: Tip #1 Play the 'WIFEY' role without the 'WIFE' Title I see this so often. Excited and loving girlfriends who assume the wifey role, but don't receive the wife title. We have to understand there are layers and privileges' in a relationship. Those wonderful and admirable things that a wife does, is because she's a wife. She treats her man that way because that 'man' is her HUSBAND. The Bible calls wives to submit to their husband. I don't see a verse where it says that about girlfriends. Allow your boyfriend to earn those privileges with you. Its like living in modesty. You don't show it all off. When a man becomes your husband, he has the privilege of seeing your body the way no one else has. Through that, men gain respect for you and they truly view it as a privilege that no one else has. Allow something left to be desired. Don't give it all away to him and leave nothing to be excited for once you're married. Playing the 'wifey' role comes in all different forms. It could be 100% of the time submitting to your boyfriend as if he's your husband. It could be 'shacking up' or moving in with your boyfriend before you're married. It could be giving into lustful ways before marriage. Either way, its a girlfriend giving a boyfriend the privileges that are normally reserved for a husband. "How is it a disadvantage if I enjoy it? I love living with my boyfriend, I love sleeping with him in bed, I love being called 'wifey' and playing 'wifey'." Just like sin, those things come with a consequence. You're setting yourself up to be taken advantage of. Although your boyfriend could treat you well and he's a good man, he's also greatly benefiting from you giving him everything a married man is supposed to receive. This could lead to a lack of respect, ending the puppy-love stage and a potential issue with commitment to name a few. How many men would rush to get married if they're already getting what a married man is getting? As I stated in the video, 'Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?'. STORY TIME: The 'Wifey' role-playing girlfriend of 2 years I had a friend, let's name her Gina, and she moved to a small town and met a guy , let's call him Stephen. They both began dating, going to different restaurants and enjoyed each other's company. Gina and Stephen made it official as boyfriend and girlfriend. Every other night, they would go to each other's house and have dinner there. He started off cooking dinner for her and then they would watch a movie. This went on every other day of the week. Gina slowly started helping Stephen cook dinner and clean up afterwards at his home. Sometimes Gina would 'sleep over' Stephen's house. Stephen met Gina's family and Gina met Stephen's friends. They continued their nightly routine of Gina coming over for dinner, helping cook and clean and then 'sleeping over'. One night, Gina didn't clean up Stephen's kitchen after dinner and this started an argument. They discussed moving to a different state and moving in together. They spoke about marriage and kids sometimes, too. Gina never met Stephen's mom and Stephen never told his mom about Gina. This really bothered Gina and they had multiple arguments about this. They didn't exactly resolve the issue, but they moved on from the topic and continued their relationship. Stephen wanted to move out of the state and take on a new job. Since they spoke about moving out of state and moving in together, this excited Gina. Gina brought it up that she was looking at new jobs in the state that Stephen wanted to move to. They had an argument and Stephen explained that he didn't see a future with her after 2 years of dating. He said he didn't feel the excitement anymore. Gina felt mislead since they spoke about marriage, kids, moving in together in the past. Although Gina and Stephen didn't 'shack up' together in the same apartment, the culture of their relationship was like a husband and wife. They still slept together and they played house every other day of the week. Gina thought she was playing her role as a good girlfriend. Stephen mislead her. He might've been truthful about his original views of marriage with her. Him getting a full-course meal of the marriage life with her every other day could've contributed to his lost of excitement for their future. There wasn't much to look forward to with her since he already had it every other night. Gina played the wifey role for 2 years while hoping she would eventually become his wife. How often do we hear stories like this? How often does this happen? Too often. This relationship culture is not sustainable, fair or pure for us ladies. Us feminine, high value women should follow the traditional way of relationships that turn into marriages. Tip #2 Don't Engage in Petty & Insignificant Arguments The 'old bickering married couple' is only cute in TV shows and movies. They are usually more funny than cute. It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. - Proverbs 21:19 Men look out for women who seem to be argumentative, never happy and the bickering type. If he’s looking for a long-term relationship and a potential wife, no matter how beautiful and extraordinary you are, he will run away. No one wants to live with someone who is always starting an argument. No one wants that added stress. No matter how comfortable you may get in a relationship, never fall into the contentious woman hole. Before engaging in an argument, ask yourself if the topic will still be relevant in the next week or month or year. Is this topic really worth an argument? Or is this something I can ignore or move on from? Also, not every problem needs a therapy session. Its good to talk about your feelings and talk things out. Yet, it can be very draining to constantly participate in an unnecessary lecture. Some arguments could make your relationship stronger or it could wear you down. Have you ever had a small argument that was resolved, but then the next time you see your boyfriend, it feels different. The environment around your boyfriend feels off, like they're acting funny or they're not talking so much or they may seem closed off. Although you resolved the issue, for him it may have been a draining experience. His feelings may have changed and that may lead to a break up. It didn't take a big argument for you and your boyfriend to break up. Instead it took a multiple SMALL arguments that broke the camel's back. If you find yourself not feeling like yourself within a relationship, that should raise a red flag. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship where your blood pressure isn’t raised every day. You should feel safe and not the need to defend yourself from your boyfriend. Every relationship has its ups and downs and every one has their seasons. It is still very important to consider if the relationship is a healthy route for you. Is the relationship more of a burden? TIP #3 Don't Settle You shouldn't settle with any aspect in your life and that includes your relationship. Not every relationship is an extraordinary K-drama, Telenovela, or Nicholas Sparks' book. Yet, you shouldn't settle for less just because the relationship you're in is convenient or comfortable. There are truly so many fish in the sea and we shouldn't settle because we finally caught one. You are truly single until you're married. This doesn't mean go out and cheat, but until you've made that covenant with God and your husband, you are free to explore. STORY TIME: Your Local Convenient Boyfriend I had a friend, let's name her Samantha and she dated a guy named Talon. They both lived in a small town and there wasn't much to do in that town. Yet they would have a nice time traveling to different cities and exploring new things and they took part in pre-martial sex regularly. They dated for months now and Talon got a job offer in a different state. Talon told Samantha if the job offer follows through, he would break up with her, but if he doesn't get the job he would stay together with her. This broke Samantha's heart. Yet, Samantha heard from her mom, that she is young and she shouldn't take things too seriously. She was considering Stephen's relationship offer. She asked me for advice and I told her that it seems like Stephen is trying to take advantage of her. Yet if she chose to continue dating him, then she would have to withhold some of her feelings. Although they've been dating for over a year now and she has strong feelings for him, she would have to view the relationship as a casual dating situation for her own good. Samantha considered the options and lastly decided that she would accept Stephen's relationship offer. She said since she lived in the small town, she doesn't have any friends and he is the only person she's spent time with since she's moved there. She also said that she is young and she agreed with her mom on not taking it seriously. I cautioned her that she may be putting herself in the position to get her feelings hurt. They continued dating for another year and Talon almost broke up with her two more times because of the potential job offers he got. Throughout that time, Samantha's feelings only grew stronger and each time she was more and more hurt. Yet, she didn't want to be lonely in the small town and her feelings turned into love, so she didn't want to break up. After the third break up attempt, Samantha finally ended the relationship after 2 and a half years. She felt undervalued, used and heartbroken. My friend Samantha stayed with Talon for 2 1/2 years, knowing the consequences. She was comfortable and had the convenience of the relationship that she didn't want to let go. Deep down inside, she knew she couldn't withhold her feelings in order portray a care-free love partner. In the end, Samantha ended up hurting herself for 2 and a half years. There is always something else out there. Don't let the small-town love convenience, 'I can be feeling-less' and 'I'm comfortable here' stigma sell yourself short. 4. DON'T try to CHANGE a Man I speak more of this topic in the video. The main takeaway is: A man will change WHEN he wants to. A man will change for WHO he wants to. Don't waste time trying to force a man to put effort and attention into a relationship that he doesn't value. Be comfortable knowing that he wasn't willing to change for you, because he was NOT the one for you. Be comforted knowing that there is someone out there who is the right one for you. He will dedicate the proper time, change and attention for you, your relationship and your happiness. Let Yahweh show you when he's the right one. What is a lesson you've learned in your past relationships? Have you done any of these mistakes in relationships? Don't be shy to share, we've all made mistakes and through those mistakes have turned into knowledge and lifelong lessons. Comment below! Let's Chat, Dolls. Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Housewife Diary Entry Hello Dolls, As many of you know, I am currently dealing with an unexpected loss within my family. I appreciate the support you’ve shown me in the comment section of my community tab on YouTube. I’ve been taking things day by day. Blessed by God, I’ve been able to spend time with my family. I had the perfect day with my father and grandmother. Also, my husband comforts me every day which has really helped me. From my Community Tab on YouTube, “Hello Dolls, for this week there won’t be another video or Live Tea Time & Chit Chat. Unfortunately, I lost my grandfather. He was an elegant, admirable and smart man. We shared the same birthday and had a special connection. We were very alike. Ive learned so much from him. I was hoping to make more memories with him and to have him meet his future great grandchildren. I’m taking this time for myself & with my family. I’m trying to stay busy but also trying to heal from this loss ✝️💜 Reading all of your sweet comments under my videos causes me to smile during this time. Thank you for always taking the time to share & connect with me. Thank you for understanding Dolls. Perhaps I may upload next week, I’m going to take things day by day” When I’m alone and to myself, I’ve been trying to keep busy. Cooking and baking has been a stress reliever for me. It’s also a chance for me to have fun. Cooking gives yourself a chance to block out the world and concentrate on your recipe. Baking does the same for me. I’ve channeled into my inner chef these past couple of days. The best part is the finish result. It’s when you’re able to plate your dish, sit down and enjoy. Then you try your first bite of your creation and there’s that moment of peace. I've been gravitating to healthy recipes to improve my eating lifestyle. When it comes to baking, there’s a give and take for healthy desserts. When the pandemic began, I started baking cookies and other desserts every week. It was a nice, sweet treat to snack on throughout the week. Unfortunately for me, I have a bigger sweet tooth than my husband AND I’m at home more than usual. I learned my lesson and now I’m geared towards baking healthier desserts. Now some recipes are simply sweet treats and can’t really be made as a healthy version like chocolate croissants. So I am picking and choosing each one every other week. I've gotten requests for separate cooking and baking videos on my YouTube channel. I would love to share my favorite recipes with you Dolls. I am introducing a recipe section on my blog and I will be sure to share recipes with you on my YouTube channel. As for dinners, I’ve been excited to simply cook. Whether it’s the usual recipes or new ones, I’ve fallen back in love with it. I’ve always enjoyed cooking, but now it’s more of a cooking therapy session for me. For any of you who are going through a similar situation like me, I would suggest you to find a hobby at home or out of the house that you could enjoy. Spending time with my loved ones have really helped me a lot too. Every day may invoke a different emotion. Through cooking and baking, I’m able to exercise my creativity which is a stress reliever for me. This has been a mini therapy session for my nerves and mind. Thank you Dolls once again for the constant support and love you’ve sent my way. When the time is right, I’ll post a new video on YouTube. It may be next week because I miss chatting with you Dolls. I want to make sure I’m giving myself a chance to properly heal from this event. I look forward to sharing recipes with you in the future. Hope to see you soon, Ebony Nikita Okeke

To: Dolls From: Ebony Nikita Okeke For: Support of Feminine Black Creators! Hello, Dolls! Happy Black History month to you! In celebration of this joyous occasion, I want to spotlight these amazing feminine black creators! From feminine fashion to wellness to homemaking, these feminine black ladies will inspire you through their content creation. Each creator has their own unique style that will appeal to a wide range of feminine ladies. First let me introduce myself! Meet Ebony Nikita Okeke Creator of Ebony Nikita Okeke YouTube Channel & EbonyNikita.com Ebony Nikita Okeke is young homemaker who started her YouTube channel and blog to encourage women to embrace their femininity and flourish through it. Through her videos and posts you can find tips on starting your femininity journey, elegance, feminine fashion and homemaking inspiration. "I inspire ladies to live every day with intentional feminine elegance. Through style and demeanor, I believe every lady can become the dream version of herself." - Ebony Nikita Okeke @Ebony.Nikita Personal Favorite: "Day in the Life of a Young Housewife" Perfect if you're looking for: Femininity & Elegance Tips and Homemaking Inspiration Meet Goldie Wollman Creator of Organic Opulence Blog Goldie Wollman is the creator of the blog, Organic Opulence. Wollman had a career as a luxury hotel concierge before she decided to become a homemaker. Through her blog, Organic Opulence, we're able to see her passion for wellness. Wollman covers wellness through lifestyle tips, must-try recipes and beauty to name a few. “Here, I inspire women to tap into mindful living through wellness, personal growth and self-care.” - Goldie Wollman @Organic_Opulence Personal Favorite: “Elevating My Home For Wellness” Perfect if you’re looking for: Lifestyle & Wellness Inspiration! Meet Kim Postell Creator of Naturally Fashionable Youtube Channel & Wifey For Lifey Youtube Channel Kim Postell is a housewife who encourages traditional femininity, style, travel and lifestyle tips through her YouTube channel Naturally Fashionable. With 15 years of marriage and counting, Postell shares her experiences with young women through her other YouTube Channel Wifey for Lifey. "I created @NaturallyFashionable & @WifeyForLifeyGroup because I saw a need for spaces that promote positive conversations about style, personal development, healthy relationships, and marriage." - Kim Postell @NaturallyFashionable @WifeyforLifeygroup Personal Favorite: “What is a Provider?” Perfect if you're looking for: Encouragement of Traditional Values & Marriage Meet Jasmine Ty Creator of Jasmine Ty YouTube Channel & JasmineTyxo.com Jasmine Ty creates inspirational videos for women who are looking to dress femininely and practice modesty. Through Ty's channel and blog, she shares her capsule wardrobes, fashion inspiration and styling tips. Ty also shares minimalism inspiration for fashion, beauty and lifestyle. “Style is a beautiful way to express your creativity and values. By dressing feminine and modest I convey my morals. Through fashion you can show you are proud of your beliefs.” - Jasmine Ty @JasmineTyXO Personal Favorite: “Where to Shop for Modest Clothing” Perfect If you’re looking for: Modest & Feminine Fashion Inspiration @JasmineTyxo SCREENSHOT & TAG Your FAVORITE Feminine Black Homemakers & Creators on Your Instagram Story! Be sure to follow these beautiful ladies on Instagram and show them support by subscribing! Who is one of your favorite feminine black homemakers? Who is a feminine black creator we should know about? Comment below. Let's Chat Dolls! Always with Love, Ebony Nikita Okeke